So, I have begun a new show on Netflix called Private Practice. For those of you who don’t know, it’s a spin-off from Grey’s Anatomy. So, I was watching an episode a couple of days ago, and I got frustrated by something. This patient came in for fertility treatments so she could get pregnant. She said she was a newlywed. So, like anyone, the doctors asked about her marriage and about her relational history and it came out that she had waited to have sex until she had gotten married. According to the script of the show, this patient was in her early 30s, just got married, and had waited to have sex. The doctors treated it as such a weird thing. They said how “sweet” it was that she had wanted to wait, and that it was “sweet” she wanted to wait to “experience the magic”. One of them even when so far as to say “She is already 30 and hadn’t had sex yet?!” For me, watching that, I just shook my head. Why is that such a weird thing nowadays? Why do people sometimes look down on that? Now, I don’t know if this patient had a relationship with Christ or anything, and frankly, I’m not going to over-analyze it. But let me just tell you some of my frustrations…
This is not another post about waiting to have sex until you’re married. This is not a post putting down those who haven’t. This is not a post designed to make anybody feel bad. But I get so frustrated with my generation. The ideals that are constantly shoved down our throats have created so many problems. Just look at the incidence of eating disorders, of suicide, of depression, of teenage pregnancy, of divorce. There is so much in this world that needs to be talked about. I get so frustrated by the ideals of this world. I always just want to do something. I couldn’t sleep a few nights ago, so I got to thinking…there is something I can do. There is some way I can make a difference.
I want to be real with people. I want to live with real struggles. I want to have real conversations. I want to live differently. Now, just because I believe something doesn’t mean you have to believe it as well. But I want to have my real morals and my real ideals and have people ask me about them. I want to be real with people. I want my relationship with Christ to be a real, tangible thing. And, of course, in some ways it is. But I want to live so that people notice my real relationship with Christ and ask me questions about it. I want them to ask me why I live the way I do. Why do I hold on so tight to my ideals. Why do I feel so strongly about the sin in this world. I try to be a good person, but that’s not enough. I’m always going to fall short of that ideal, that’s a given. But I can tell them, I can tell you, how big my God is despite the problems and detrimental messages that are so present in today’s society.
True, I want to save myself for marriage, but it’s not just because it’s a whim. It is explicit in the Bible that sex is meant for marriage (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8). I don’t want to be self-righteous. I just want Christ’s laws to have a very real presence in this world among my generation. Sometimes I see it, and sometimes I don’t. I want the way I live my life to be a very real mirror of God fulfilling His purpose for me. I want people to ask me why I have the ideal of not having sex until marriage. I am more than happy to explain. I want people to ask me about my struggles. I am more than happy to explain how Christ got me through them in one piece. I want people to ask me how I’ve lived my entire life with a chronic disease. I am more than happy to explain how my God is bigger than any sickness and He’s the one who is gracious enough to give me another healthy day, and that is how I keep a smile on my face. I want to live differently. I want Christ’s light to shine through this world and through the darkness that each of us experiences before Christ. Christ lived differently when He was on Earth. And aren’t we supposed to try and live like Christ?
“For the grave cannot praise you, death cannot sing your praise; those who go down to the pit cannot hope for your faithfulness. The living, the living – they praise you, as I am doing today; parents tell their children about your faithfulness.”
“So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness. See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.”